Existential
Therapy.
"MeWe therapy"
Neil Todd
Existential Counselling Psychologist.
(DProf.: Existential Psychotherapy & Counselling (pending), PGDip (L7): Existential Psychotherapy & Counselling, Foundation Diploma: Existential Psychotherapy & Counselling, PGCE, BA Honours).
Neil Todd: therapist
“Life is nothing until it is lived. It is we who give it meaning, and value is nothing more than the meaning we give it”.
(Jean-Paul Sartre).
Simplicity perhaps, yet a life’s journey realising.
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Changes, Choice-Making, Anxiety, Loss, Isolation, Self-Identity, Direction, Meaningfulness are some of areas I am specialising in. How to navigate these and other existential challenges is the focus of my work with you.
I am completing my doctorate in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling.
Rather than present as an expert therapist offering advice, exercises or diagnosis, I aim to work with and alongside you in a journey of uncovering and discovering your unique responses to your concerns.
I meet you with a sense of your unique individuality not as a type fitting to acronyms or pathologies.
I endeavour to phenomenologically “tune-in” to your dilemmas and concerns rather than look to establish causes or historical influences. I listen and respond to you as you navigate your challenges and problems of living now.
Your concerns might be:
Anxiety
Choice
Endings & loss
Bereavement
Isolation
Lonliness
Romance
Difference
Self-Identity
Meaning & Meaninglessness
Confidence
Depression
Confusion
Trauma
Shame
Guilt
Conflict
Career transition
Performance anxiety
End of Life
“MeWe”
journeying
Legend – or otherwise – has it that in 1975, engaged in speaking tours, boxer Muhammad Ali was invited to give a commencement speech to 2000 Harvard students. At the end of which a shout of “Give us a poem, Muhammad”, led to what may be considered one of the shortest English language poems. His response was: “Me. We.” or perhaps, “Me…Whee…”.
In this resonates fundamental understandings of existential, phenomenological psychotherapy:
our freedom is always situated, relational and interconnected.
Hence, the "MeWe" of our existential therapeutic space seeks to embrace this understanding and encounter you in your person, not as an object (Buber, 1923).
In non-European-centric philosophy, I aim to encapsulate:
“I am because we are, since we are, therefore I am. I am because of who we all are”.
(ethic of Ubuntu).
It is this core "MeWe" relation I nurture in our therapeutic space in an endeavour to encourage meaningful exploration of your concerns and trust in your therapeutic journey.
Therapy is sometimes associated with soothing crises and alleviating suffering under an expert therapist's diagnositic eye. It is sometimes sought in time of conflict, anxiety and hardship. Many therapies rely on such relationship and successfully navigate changed outcomes.
However, expert's strategy and techniques can impose distance and may even alienate.
Existential Therapy here can be the opportunity to “look again” at one’s experiences with fresh eyes and step beyond notions of dysfunction, impairment, pathologising labels or cognitive and behavioural correction.
What if nothing is wrong as such and how to live better and differently becomes the focus?
To explore confusion, anger, uncertainty, choices, anxiety, fear, doubt or what is important to you now, through dialogue is the essence of our work.
It is possible. It is effective. It is long-lasting.
This path though isn’t always comfortable. How we recognise our values, choices and limitations and how we manage the unpredictability and anxiety of change and difference is deep and profound. It is however, the beating heart of our therapeutic space.
“MeWe therapy” offers you the opportunity to talk safely and confidentially through your concerns, anxieties and dilemmas together.
I will work alongside you until I am superfluous.
I work existentially and phenomenologically; expert only in listening.
“MeWe” is my privilege and our challenge.
You: client
You are here for many unique reasons. Perhaps life moves in a confusing direction, where your place and how you navigate that place is unclear and troubling.
Perhaps traumatic events have occurred and leave you lost, depressed, closed-off, fragile, anxious and regaining a fulfilled, vibrant life feels impossible.
Life, loss, anxiety, endings, heart-wrench, change, choices, confusion, lonliness, isolation, lack of fulfilment or confidence may often seem mountains too vague or enormous to manage.
Likewise, your explorations of your unique differences and values, identity, sexuality, gender, race, ethnicity too may also bring you to this space.
Opening to yourself may be discovered or renewed through our dialogues.
Changed horizons appear as you explore your values and what really matters to you.
Like journeying “home”, finding or rediscovering your voice might be challenging, frustrating, eye-opening, anxiety-making, thought-provoking, fun or possibly forbidding.
You will know when to begin, where to go and when to finish.
You may encounter joy, the sublime, ridiculous, painful or absurd in our dialogues. Life’s paradoxes and contradictions become apparent and rather than avoided, can be embraced and learned to live-with differently.
You have arrived at this space.
You may have explored other therapies or none.
But you have however, already made important choices to be here now ….
So here we are.
All 60 min Introductory Sessions charged at same rate as therapy session.
Online:
The online experience offers flexibility and allows opportunities to meet that may be impossible were sessions face to face. In my experience since the Covid pandemic, online work within the therapeutic community has proved popular for clients and is often preferred.
It is important to ensure all sessions take place in a comfortable, confidential and private space for you. I will maintain such and ask that you too are clear the space you have allows you such privacy.
Sessions 7 days a week, incl. evenings for UK, European or non-European residents beginning on the hour (CET). Sessions will be conducted through the Zoom platform.
English speaking clients (min. Euro level C1/TOIEC 850).
In Person:
Individual, Couples and Mens' Group therapy commencing January 2026 in Capestang (Mondays/Saturdays) and Quarante, France by appointment.
Individual Therapy 50 mins.
Couples Therapy 60 mins
Men's Group Therapy 90mins.
Supervision 60 mins.
Cancellations: minimum 48 hours notice by email before the scheduled start time to avoid being charged for your session.
Fees:
Individual Therapy: 50 mins
£80 / €92
Couples Therapy: 60 mins
£110 / €126
Men's Group Therapy: 90mins
€20
Individual Supervision 60 mins
£90 / €103
Reduced rates for:
Rugby Players, Actors, Performers, Teachers, NSPC, Existential Academy Students
Bank transfer prior to session.
Book a 60 min Introductory Session to discuss and discover whether MeWe may provide you with the space and therapy you seek.
if you have any questions or would like to discuss something.
Qualification:
Doctorate: Existential studies in Psychotherapy and Counselling by Professional Studies, pending. (Middlesex University, London).
PGDip (L7) Psychotherapy and Counselling. (Middlesex University, London).
Fondation Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling. (Middlesex University, NSPC, London).
NPQH DoE: National Qualification for Headship.
Diploma: Acting, Directing, Teaching: SoFA, London.
Diploma in Acting: CSSD, London.
PGCE English and Drama, University of London.
BA Honours English & Drama, University of London.
Experience:
2023 - present. "Existential Movement" Steering Team.
2023 - 2025. Society of Psychotherapy, (chair).
2022 - present. “MeWe Consultancy”, Existential Psychotherapist.
2019 - 2023. “Dilemma Consultancy”. Existential Counselling.
2018 - 2021 Bereavement Therapist/Counsellor, Wandsworth Bereavement Service. London.
2018 - present. Rugby player, Coach, France.
2009- present English teacher, freelance. France.
2007- 2010 Teacher Linden Lodge special school, Garratt Park special school. London.
1996 - 2002 Actor, Director, Teacher, student: SoFA London.
1986 - 2007 Deputy head, teacher, Chartfield Special School, Wandsworth. London.
1986 - present. Professional Actor.
1983 - 1986 Student, CSSD London.
1981 - 1983 English teacher, Ashburton High, Heath Clark High. Croydon.
1970 - present. Rugby player.
